Filling the Gaps: How Making Appointments with Yourself Can Ease Transitions
Transitions, whatever they may be, often involve a change in routine. Whether it’s adjusting to an empty nest, retirement, or another significant life shift, these changes can leave us feeling unmoored, unsure of how to fill the time and space once occupied by familiar activities and responsibilities.
As I transitioned into an empty nest, I found myself slipping into a slump where weeks seemed to blur together. The routine and purpose once defined by my children’s needs were suddenly gone, leaving an unsettling emptiness. I realised that if I didn’t make some changes, I could easily become stuck in this rut.
To bring structure and purpose back into my life, I began making weekly appointments with myself. These weren’t about filling my schedule with busy work; they were about reconnecting with myself and exploring new interests to fill the gaps left by my children.
Last week, my self-imposed appointments included two spinning classes, evening walks with the dogs, and an embroidery class with a friend. These activities weren’t chosen because of a deep passion but rather as a way to stay accountable to myself. Some, like spinning, offered a physical outlet, while others, like the embroidery class, were a chance to try something new, even if embroidery isn’t in my future.
This week, I’m excited to dust off my camera and spend time in the garden taking pictures before dusk—an activity that reconnects me with my love for photography. I’ve also planned a date night with my husband and a visit to Exclusive Books to browse, something I’ve always loved but haven’t made time for in a while.
Through this process, I’ve learned that transitions like these can leave you feeling lost, unsure of your direction, and disconnected from the routines that once anchored you. But by committing to these weekly appointments, I’ve found a way to fill the gaps that were left behind. Even when I don’t enjoy every new thing I try, the act of making these commitments keeps me accountable, pushing me to stay active and engaged rather than slipping back into that initial slump.
Here are a few tips that might help you navigate your own transitions:
- Try New Things: Step out of your comfort zone and explore new activities. Even if they don’t all become lifelong passions, they can help you discover new interests and keep your mind engaged.
- Reconnect with Old Passions: Use this time to revisit hobbies or interests that you may have set aside. Whether it’s a creative pursuit, gardening, or volunteering, reconnecting with old passions can bring a sense of fulfilment.
- Set Small, Achievable Goals: Start with small goals that are easy to accomplish. As you meet these goals, you’ll build confidence and momentum, making it easier to tackle bigger challenges.
- Find a Community: Transitions can feel isolating. Joining a group or class related to your interests can help you build a new social circle and share experiences with others going through similar changes.
By setting aside time each week for intentional activities, you can begin to carve out a new path and find purpose, no matter what transition you are going through.