How do you order from the restaurant of life?
Picture the scene … You go to a restaurant with a friend. After taking your seats at your table, your waiter takes your drinks order. He returns minutes later with drinks.
He asks, “Are you ready to order your main course?”
“Yes,” you answer.
Your waiter takes out his little book, gets his pen ready to take your order and looks at you, waiting for you to tell him what you want.
You say, “I’ll have some food.”
The look of puzzlement on his face will probably be priceless.
“Sure, you can have food,” says the waiter, “but what food do you want. There are a number of choices on the menu and you’re going to have to be more specific as to exactly which food do you want.
“Oh, OK,” you say. I’ll have a curry.”
“Would you like the red curry or the green curry?”
“The green curry.”
“Beef, chicken or lamb curry?”
“Chicken, please,” you say.
“Mild, medium or hot?”
“Medium,” you reply.
“Steamed or fried rice?” he asks.
“Fried rice,” you say.
Half exhausted, he leaves, finally having dragged out of you what you want.
All these options were on the menu for you to select. You just didn’t bother to be clear enough about what you wanted; fortunately you had someone to draw it out of you.
There are no waiters in the restaurant of life. So you just sit there waiting and hoping that somehow someone will bring you just what you want – but you don’t even know what you want.
If the restaurant of life hasn’t yet given you what you wanted, it simply means that you have not been clear about what you wanted from it. That’s what people mean when they tell you to have clear goals in life. They’re really telling you to be clear about what you want to order from life … otherwise you will get nothing.
Once you’re clear about what you want, be aware that you will be expected to pay the price of what you want – in terms of effort, time and mistakes.
And, lastly, be aware that the restaurant of life is a self-service restaurant. You have to help yourself. If you are not prepared to make things happen, no-one is going to deliver in front of you what you ordered while you casually sit around waiting.
So, be clear about what you want, then set your mind toward achieving it. It’s all about intention determining where you place your attention. And we get the things we focus on!
Alan Hosking is the publisher of HR Future magazine, www.hrfuture.net, #hrfuturemag, and assists executives to prevent, reverse and delay ageing, and achieve self-mastery.